Shauna Neiquist said, “With people, you can connect and you can compare, but you can’t do both.”
You can choose to have a relationship.
Or you can choose to stand back and evaluate what they have that’s better than yours.
You can bless them, or you can impress them. But you can’t do both.
The bottom line is: you can live from a place filled with the love and joy of the Holy Spirit, or you can live from a place of desperation-reaching-searching for anything you can say or do that will make you “enough.” Whether that is comparing what you have to what she has and deciding you have the best, or realizing that she has the best and deciding to not like her.
These cycles of comparison always hurt you and others far more than you realize.
Choosing to live from a place filled with love will allow you to accept yourself. You will begin to know the heart of the Father towards you and through that, you will be able to love yourself and other’s the way that He would. You will be able to end the cycle of comparison.
God calls you beloved-can you call yourself beloved?
To those who are able to be brave, and have the courage to show up. I want to thank you. Thank you for living and loving from a brave and authentic place. To those who are able to connect instead of compare. We need more people like you.
We need to start accepting ourselves as we are. Accepting our gifts. Our talents as well as our flaws. Accept our lives. Accept the adventures we been given as well as the trials we have endured.
We need to choose to go up to that girl who looks like she has it all together.
Maybe her outfit all matches while yours has a coffee stain as well as a hole you just found while you were driving to work that morning. But chances are, she’s hurting as much or more as you are. Choose to get to know her before you compare your insides to her outsides.
When you choose to accept yourself and your identity as His beloved, you are able to truly connect with others and show them their identity in Him as well.